“Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.”

— Romans 12:2 (ESV)

More often than not, pity is misunderstood as compassion. Pity is just being sorry for someone’s misfortune without desiring to help. But compassion is a heart that moves to help someone in their misfortune — to comfort them and stand with them.

Self-pity is when a person feels sorry for themselves, focusing only on their sorrows and misfortunes and dwelling on them. Self-pity does more harm than any external situation around us.

The Bible talks about the dangers of being confined to worldly thoughts and patterns. It’s like taking ownership of every situation, whether it concerns you or not. It’s desiring to stay in the spotlight — whether for a good or bad reason.

Prophet Elijah, a powerful man who brought the Word of God to the people — highly respected and honored. In one memorable event, he called upon the name of the Lord on Mount Carmel, and God answered him with fire before all the people. That day, Elijah destroyed many false prophets, and the fear of God fell upon everyone.

It was a historic moment still remembered today. But soon after, this same brave man of God had a moment of weakness when Jezebel threatened to kill him. The zealous prophet who had just displayed God’s mighty power ran for his life and even left his servant behind. He prayed that God would take his life and said he was done.

Just days before, Elijah had shown great bravery and faith with his focus fixed on the Almighty. But now, his focus shifted inward. He became self-centered, and that almost ended his ministry — all because a woman’s threat frightened him.

Self-pity is a silent killer. If not addressed, It affects our mental health and steals our peace and joy when we refuse to walk away from it.

Remember — you are created for greatness and in you is greatness. If the world projects you as something less, refocus from what the world says to what the Bible says. The Word teaches us not to be conformed to the world’s patterns but to be transformed through the renewal of our minds.

It takes humility to move the spotlight away from yourself and place it back on the Word of God. You are not the hero of every scene — Jesus is.

Not every challenge around you is meant to break you. Not everyone is trying to pull you down or hurt you. We are created to coexist with others. When we constantly seek attention — whether good or bad — we begin to place ourselves equal with God.

Humble yourself before the Lord and surrender, saying, “Not my will, but Yours be done.”

The truth is, you are not in a sorry state as you are projecting outside. You are more than a conqueror. You are brave, blessed, and above all, a child of the Most High God.

Transfer the power you’re holding over situations, thoughts, and people to your loving Father, Yahweh. You can rest peacefully when you understand who controls your future.

If you face misfortune, give thanks and surrender it to God. If you face hardship, thank Him again and surrender it. If you face betrayal, bring it to Him and let Him heal you.

Do not dwell on your past, and do not stay stuck in your present. Be expectant of the new thing God is about to do, and let Him renew your mind every day.

Prayer:

Father God, thank You for reminding me that I am not defined by the world or my feelings. Teach me to lay down self-pity and to walk in compassion and humility. Help me to fix my eyes on You and not on myself. Renew my mind and fill my heart with peace as I trust in Your perfect plan. In Jesus’ name, Amen.